39 (Life Lessons) for 39 – 073

Welcome to my birthday party episode!

In celebration of my 39th birthday, I took a personal inventory of lessons I’ve learned that have served and continue to serve me, and I hope to not forget as I close out my thirties this year! They cover all areas of my life and hopefully will serve to encourage, entertain and maybe even challenge you, too!

The lessons were:


  1. Grace covers everything
  2. The Bible is real, active, and life’s best guide
    (Don’t miss This Is What You Need for Your Own Coffee + Bible Time.
  3. Protect your peace at all costs


  1. Kids are very resilient
  2. Kids pick up on everything
  3. Structure is your friend
  4. Sometimes you have to let loose
  5. There’s nothing like a sibling bond
  6. Nobody’s good at everything


  1. Marriage falls apart when you let it
  2. No marriage is easy
    Don’t miss: Episodes #prayingforyourhusbanddaily on conflict and Lessons From the First Year of Marriage With Donny Bender – 031
  3. You get out what you put in
  4. Prayer is my number one marriage tool
    Find allllll my #prayingforyourhusbanddaily videos on youtube HERE.
  5. Tomorrow isn’t promised
  6. Everyone’s capable of good and evil
    Watch the log and speck #prayingforyourhusbanddaily on Instagram, here.
  7. You really can’t change your husband. But God CAN. (Insert anyone)
    Grab your copy of The Power of a Praying Wife, the book that inspired my prayer series, now!

Personal growth

  1. Self-love matters, and self-love changes
  2. Nothing is always as it seems there’s more than one side to every story
  3. It’s never too late for a glow up
  4. Follow your own timeline
  5. It’s never too late (to start (over))
  6. You can change your mind
  7. You can only work on yourself
  8. Girls need girlfriends
  9. Your past matters but doesn’t define you
    Episode: Affirmation: My Past Does Not Define Me – 060
  10. Ignoring something NEVER makes it go away
  11. What you weigh or the size you wear isn’t what people notice about you
    Episodes How To Improve Your Body Image With Becky Patterson – 016
    What if Smaller Isn’t Better? With Sam Gwaz – 022
    How to Break Free From Body Shame With Jess Connolly – 029
  12. Pride can ruin any and every good thing
  13. Listen to your gut
  14. Act on your gut
  15. Live YOUR life
  16. Never say never
  17. Never say always
  18. Be bold and just be you
    Episode: What Do I Mean When I Say #beboldandjustbeyou? – 001
  19. Seasons change and you change with them
  20. Nothing stays hidden forever
  21. Therapy is worth every penny (See the link below for BetterHelp!!)
  22. Don’t believe everything you think
  23. You don’t have to be perfect 

Looking to invest in your marriage? Read more about my passion for #prayingforyourhusbanddaily and watch the most recent video on Instagram here or watch it on YouTube below (the one on a TRUCE).

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