How to Truly Enjoy Sex (With Dr. Jennifer Degler) – 069

Sex Isn’t Just For Him. You Deserve Pleasure, Too.

In my first marriage (straight out of purity culture!) I didn’t enjoy sex. I thought it was my duty, but I wasn’t very good at it and didn’t desire it. But then I found excitement and passion in my new marriage, so I know (from experience!) that a woman’s sex drive can be transformed. We just need education and encouragement to learn and try new things. I interview Dr. Jennifer Degler, a Psychologist, life coach, author, speaker, wife, and mom who gives us practical advice for women who want more out of their sex life. And for women who might not think that is possible.

We discuss questions and topics from my listeners including:

-How to know your body
-Developing a pleasure mindset for mutual enjoyment in the bedroom.
-How to talk about what you want/need/like and don’t like with your man. 
-Are there any acts that are “off limits”?
-How often is “normal” for sexual intimacy?
And more. Dr. Jennifer gives us practical ideas to try right away to spice it up.

More about Dr. Jennifer Degler

Psychologist, life coach, author, speaker, wife, and mom, Dr. Jennifer Degler is passionate about helping people create healthy, successful relationships. As a lifelong Kentuckian and UK graduate, she bleeds blue for the Big Blue Nation. You won’t find her in a coffee shop (she thinks coffee tastes like dirt), but you are likely to find her kayaking and hiking with her high school sweetheart husband, Jeff, as they enjoy their newly empty nest. Her fabulous and funny adult children, Josie and Jake, delight in telling their friends that their mom runs a sex shop when, in reality, she founded CWIVES, a ministry to help Christian wives make their sex lives sizzle. Sex shop, ministry-sounds just the same to us too. 😉 You can find Dr. Jennifer podcasting and blogging about marriage, sex, parenting, friendships, and spiritual and personal growth on the Healthy Relationships Rx website

Don’t miss the previous episodes I mentioned:

Click to hear Bold in the Bedroom—Tips for Great Married Sex With Dan Purcell – 030
or listen in Apple Podcasts

Click to hear the most recent #prayingforyourhusbanddaily podcast episode Praying For Your Husband’s Wife – 068 or listen in Apple Podcasts here.

Here are the books Dr. Jennifer recommended.
Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference
The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment
A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy

Here are the resources from Dr. Jennifer’s website we talked about.

Fan the Flame Wives Guide
Dare of the Month email
324 Club 

Looking to invest in your marriage? Read more about my passion for #prayingforyourhusbanddaily and watch the most recent video about RESENTMENT on Instagram here or watch on YouTube below.

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