How To Support a Young Widow (From 5 Widows) – 074

Is your friend newly widowed? There are some things to do and say, and several to avoid.

I have been asked countless times how to help a friend who was suddenly widowed. My heart aches remembering the pain I experienced and know there are some practical things that truly do help and many that cause more pain than good. I include wisdom from four of my friends who were also widowed (young), hoping to offer insight into this hard life experience, both for the friend of the widow and some for the widow herself.

The previous episodes I mentioned were:
About Me 1 and 2
Widowhood Uncensored with Alison Burns|
In Sickness and in Health With Karen Wilkinson – 070

Books Joy mentioned

Gentle and Lowly and Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament

Resources to Help a Widow

  1. Valerie’s House in Southwest Florida
    (find out if your area has something similar, do the research for her, and tell her when/where they meet.)
  2. Make sure she knows to apply for Social Security
  3. Set up a Meal Train for her.
  4. Encourage her to get Counseling (see BetterHelp below).

Follow Ashby, one of the widows we learned from, here.

Looking to invest in your marriage? Read more about my passion for #prayingforyourhusbanddaily and watch the most recent video on Instagram here or watch it on YouTube below (the one on a TRUCE).

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