Embracing Joy and Celebration, Even When It Feels Scary With Nicole Zasowski – 058

What if it’s wonderful?

Do you struggle to rejoice with those who rejoice, especially when you’re mourning or dealing with loss?
Does it seem hard or scary to celebrate at times? Many of us have felt that—myself included. That’s why I wanted to chat with therapist and author Nicole Zasowski about her newest book and how she learned to ask this question which changed the way she interacted within community and in her own relationship with God.

Nicole is no stranger to loss (including miscarriage) and she’s faced unexpected changes that felt heavy. These experiences led her to learn and then share how celebration is different than escapism, and how happiness isn’t an ungodly pursuit.

Learn more about Nicole

Nicole Zasowski is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of From Lost to Found. As an old soul who wears her heart proudly on her sleeve, she enjoys writing and speaking on topics that merge her professional knowledge, faith, and personal experience. Nicole lives in Connecticut with her husband and three young children.

Follow Nicole on Instagram or on her site. You can get her book What If It’s Wonderful?: Release Your Fears, Choose Joy, and Find the Courage to Celebrate now.

Read her article for The Grit and Grace Project, 3 Reasons Why Positive Self-Talk Can Improve Your Life


Here are the books Nicole recommended:
The Way of the Heart: Connecting with God Through Prayer, Wisdom, and Silence.

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Word of the show:

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  1. no longer in fashion; out of date; outmoded.

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